all the practices I know, the practice of
Tibetan for “giving and receiving,” is one of the most useful and
powerful. When you feel yourself locked in upon yourself, Tonglen opens you to
the truth of the suffering of others; when your heart is blocked, it destroys
those forces that are obstructing it; and when you feel estranged from the
person who is in pain before you, or bitter or despairing, it helps you to find
within yourself and then to reveal the loving, expansive radiance of your own
true nature. No other practice I know is as effective in destroying the
self-grasping, self-cherishing, self-absorption of the ego, which is the root of
all our suffering and all hard-heartedness.
very simply, the Tonglen practice of giving and receiving is to take on the
suffering and pain of others and give to them your happiness, well-being, and
peace of mind.